Somatic Sex Counseling
Feel more connected, confident, and comfortable in your body, relationships, and sexuality.
Find ease and pleasure in your body and relationships.
Hi! I’m Thaina. I believe sexuality is a window. Our relationship to it often reflects how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world around us.
My practice focuses on stress and emotional regulation, sexuality exploration, and cultivating healthy relationships. I work with individuals, couples, and groups. With a PhD in Clinical Sexology, I bring depth, skill, and a genuine curiosity to the process.
People often come to me wanting to explore things like:
I want to enjoy sex more and get back in touch with my desire.
I want to talk openly with my partner about fantasies, kinks, and our sex live.
I want to understand what it means when I freeze, shut down, or feel numb during intimacy.
I want to feel safe, curious, and empowered in my sexuality.
I want to reconnect emotionally and physically with my partner and improve how we communicate.
I want to prepare for marriage and set us up for a lifetime of love.
I want to break free from stress, overthinking, and overwhelm, and learn how to feel more present in my body.
I want to explore polyamory or open relationships but don’t know where to start.
I want to understand myself better.
I want someone to talk to, without worrying about draining my friends.

What Drives Your Sexual Desire?
Mindful Kink & Pleasure Mini Journal
Cultivate presence, self-awareness, and joy in your intimate experiences.
Bring more ease and pleasure into your life:
Sexuality Is Part of Everyday Life
Our relationship to our sexual self often reflects how we relate to ourselves and others. My practice focuses on stress, sexuality, and relationships. We’re creatures of habit—and while habits can be helpful, they can also keep us stuck. We get caught in patterns that no longer serve us, which can leave us feeling frustrated, confused, disconnected, or alone.
Sometimes it feels like two stories are unfolding in our minds—one rational, one emotional (often a little wild). Even when we “know better,” we still get in our own way. Naming what’s happening helps us make sense of those inner voices, learn from what they’re trying to say, and start adjusting the volume on the ones that aren’t helpful.
Real time moves fast. There’s a constant stream of energy and information, and our brains are wired to “shoot first, ask questions later.” Slowing down to reflect and share helps us step back and SIFT—sensations, images, feelings, and thoughts—through whatever comes up.
Understanding the forces that shape how we think, feel, and relate gives us response-ability. It helps us act in alignment with who we want to be, instead of feeling stuck on autopilot.
What to Expect From Counseling Sessions
Sex Counseling sessions are laid-back conversations—but they’re intentional. We’ll explore the feedback loop between your mind, body, and relationships.
I’m not the person who just listens and nods. There’s space for that when needed, but often if you’re reaching out, it’s because you want more of the good and less of the bad. Change can be hard, slow, and uncomfortable. I cope with dark humor, puns, and swearing.
There are many ways to regulate, heal relationships, and feel delicious. But 69% of our problems might be unsolvable. I’m not offering solutions, but ideas and good company while you experiment with them. They’re drawn from research, lived experience, and what’s helped others like you. We learn to grieve what could’ve been and make room for pockets of bliss in our day-to-day.
Sometimes just “hearing myself say it…” is all we need. Other times, we benefit from having someone we trust gently call BS when we’re stuck in a mind trap.
Most sessions end with a check-in on what you’d like to focus on for the week ahead. I often share personalized resources or “homework” to support your growth between sessions.
Who I Work With
I support individuals, couples, and polycules of all genders, orientations, and relationship styles who want to deepen their understanding of emotions, intimacy, and sexual identity. Whether you’re navigating stress, ADHD, exploring kink or non-monogamy, healing from sexual shame, or simply need a trusted space to talk—I’m here for you.
Somatic Sex Counseling Can Help With:
Navigating mismatched desire, low libido, or lack of intimacy
Reconnecting with pleasure and touch, alone or with a partner
Exploring fantasies, BDSM/kink, or ethical non-monogamy
Improving communication, breaking stuck patterns, and building connection
Managing stress, burnout, and their impact on relationships
Understanding how ADHD or neurodivergence shows up in intimacy, emotional regulation, and relationship dynamics
Moving through life transitions—parenting, breakups, chronic illness or pain, aging, grief, or identity shifts—while staying connected to yourself and your relationships
From intimacy issues to mismatched desire and emotional disconnection, ADHD can make relationships harder—but support and strategies can help rebuild connection.